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#11| 1 in 4: Miscarriage & Pregnancy Loss — Why It Happens, What It Means, + What to Do Next

You’ve probably heard the phrase “1 in 4”… but behind that number are real women, real grief, and real silence. If hearing statistics makes your stomach drop — or pulls you right back to that moment — I want you to take a breath with me. This episode is a gentle space to talk about what the numbers actually mean, why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than anyone talks about, and what healing can look like when your world has changed.
Have you ever thought, “I didn’t know this was common… I thought it was just me”?
Do you find yourself replaying the “what ifs” and wondering if you caused it?
Have you felt like the statistic validates you… and yet somehow still makes you feel erased?
Do you need someone to say, clearly: this isn’t your fault — and you don’t have to earn the right to grieve?
In this episode, we’re taking the “1 in 4” statistic and putting a human heart back inside it.
Because when no one talks about pregnancy loss, you don’t just grieve the baby — you start grieving your confidence. You start questioning your body. You start carrying shame that was never yours to carry.
We talk about what the stats really say, why pregnancy loss happens (especially early loss), and why so many women blame themselves for things that weren’t in their control. And I say this plainly in the episode, but I’m going to say it here too:
You didn’t cause this. This isn’t your fault. And you don’t have to earn the right to grieve.
We also name something important: sometimes “common” doesn’t feel comforting — it can feel infuriating. Like you’re being turned into a number instead of honored as a mother with a story. So we talk about how to let the information validate you without letting it erase you.
And then we move into the part so many women need next: what healing can look like (no timelines, no pressure), how to get out of the “what if” spiral, how to ask for what you actually need, and when it’s time to reach for professional support.
What You’ll Hear in This Episode
what “1 in 4” actually means and why it matters
why miscarriage and pregnancy loss are more common than people talk about
a grounded explanation of common causes of early pregnancy loss (without blame)
myth vs truth for the thoughts that shame loves to use (“I caused it,” “my body failed”)
what healing can look like in real life (not Pinterest healing — real healing)
simple, one-sentence ways to ask for support when you don’t even know what you need
 
This Weeks Journal Prompt
“What does hearing these statistics make me feel about my own loss — or the losses of women I love? What do I want to say to myself right now?”
If This Episode Resonated, Listen Next
Episode 1: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For — if you’re still in shock or early survival mode
Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like — if you feel like you “should be over it by now”
Episode 4: Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible — if the silence from others has made everything heavier
If you know someone who has ever whispered, “I thought it was just me,” send them this episode.Not because it fixes anything — but because it names the truth. And naming the truth is how shame starts to loosen.
If you want quieter support between episodes, I’d love to welcome you into my private email community — gentle reflections, reminders, and support that doesn’t require you to explain yourself. 
Pick one friend you know has experienced loss (even years ago) and send this exact text with the episode link:
“I thought of you when I listened to this. No pressure to respond — I just wanted you to know you’re not alone.”
 
This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist.I’m also not a doctor or licensed healthcare provider. If you have questions about your specific health or pregnancy history, please reach out to your doctor, midwife, or medical provider.If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.

#10| The Love That Stays — Keeping Your Baby’s Memory Alive

Grief changes, but love never leaves.
This conversation is a quiet space to talk about memory — not just what fades, but what stays. If you’ve ever worried your baby might be forgotten… or wondered how to keep their presence close in your life… this episode is for you.
 
Have you ever worried that, as time passes, fewer people remember your baby?
Have you felt the ache of being the one who still remembers the date, the name, the little details?
Have you wondered how to carry your baby’s memory in a way that feels loving and personal — not performative?
 
In this episode, we’re naming a fear that doesn’t get talked about enough after loss: not just the pain, and not just the sadness — but the fear of forgetting… or being the only one who remembers.
There’s a sentence I hear again and again from grieving mothers:“I feel like I’m the only one who remembers my baby now.”And behind that sentence is something so sacred. Not a need for attention. Not a need for performance. Just love asking to be witnessed.
We talk about how remembering your baby doesn’t mean you’re stuck in grief. It means you’re still connected. Grief may change shape over time, but love stays — and memory can become one of the places that love continues to land.
I also share quiet, real-life examples of remembrance: a mother who lights a candle each month on her baby’s due date, and another who wears a bracelet with her baby’s initials that no one else understands… but she does. And that’s enough.
If you’ve ever questioned whether your way of remembering “counts,” this conversation is your reminder:There is no right way to remember. There is only your way.
 
 What You’ll Hear in This Episode
Why the fear of your baby being forgotten can feel just as painful as the silence itself
The difference between remembering and feeling “stuck” in grief
Gentle, personal ways to keep your baby’s memory close in everyday life
Validating reminders for when the world has moved on but your love hasn’t
A journal prompt to help you explore memory with tenderness
 
Tools, Prompts, + Resources Mentioned
These are not obligations. They’re invitations.
Speak their name:Even if it’s only in the car, in the shower, or in prayer — their name matters. It existed. It still does.
Create a gentle reminder:This doesn’t have to be big. It just has to be yours.
Light a candle on milestones
Write a yearly birthday letter
Place a stone somewhere meaningful
Visit a place that feels close to them
 
Include them in your family in quiet ways:
A Christmas ornament
A whisper during a blessing
A flower tucked into a bouquet
Grief may be invisible… but remembrance doesn’t have to be.
 
Carry them in a way only you know:
A ring, bracelet, tattoo, or keepsake
A note tucked into your wallet
Sometimes the most sacred memory is the one no one else sees.
 
 Journal Prompt
“What does it look like for me to carry my baby’s memory with love — not pain?”
Take your time with this one. Let it be honest. There is no right answer.
 
If This Episode Resonated, Listen Next
Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss? — if you’re carrying questions about identity, motherhood, and being seen after loss
Episode 4: Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible — if the silence from others has made your grief feel harder to hold
Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like — if you’re trying to understand how love and grief can continue together over time
 
 Connect + Next Step
Share this episode with one person — a friend, sister, or another mom who may be quietly wondering if her baby still matters to the world.This is one small way we can say: Yes. Always.
If you want gentle support between episodes, I’d love to welcome you into my private email community — a quiet space for soft reflections, stories, and reminders that you are not alone.
 Disclaimer
This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.

#9| When Loss Changes Your Relationship

Have you looked at your relationship after loss and thought, “What’s wrong with us?”
Do you feel like you’re grieving out loud… and your partner is grieving in silence?
Have you caught yourself thinking, “Why am I the only one carrying this?”
 
Nobody really warns you that grief doesn’t just break your heart — it can shift your whole relationship.And if things feel harder between you and your partner right now, I want you to hear this clearly:
Nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving.
In this episode, we talk about what happens when two people are hurting… but hurting differently.One person might need to talk, cry, process out loud. The other might go quiet, shut down, focus on functioning. And when you’re standing in those two different places, it’s easy for a story to form:
“They don’t care as much as I do.”
But most of the time, that isn’t the truth.Most of the time, they care deeply — they’ve just been taught to survive by staying silent.
I explain it like this:You’re on the same street… just different sidewalks.One of you stops every few steps because the grief hits hard. The other walks faster because slowing down feels like drowning. And if you don’t understand what’s happening, it starts to feel like distance — when really it’s just two nervous systems coping the best way they know how.
We also talk about why grief changes relationships:
Different grieving styles (out loud vs. inward)
Role confusion (both trying to hold it together for each other)
Unspoken resentment (“Why aren’t they crying?” / “Why do I feel alone?”)
Shifts in intimacy and closeness
The weight of everything else (bills, work, explaining, functioning)
And then I share a few real, tangible ways to support each other without trying to “fix” anything.
3 Tangible Ways to Support Each Other in Grief
Name the difference without blame“I’ve noticed we grieve differently. Can we talk about that without judgment?”
Create small connection momentsNot to fix anything — just to be together.Holding hands. Sitting quietly. Asking: “How’s your heart today?”
Get outside supportA support group, therapist, or trusted guide can help hold space for both of you — especially when communication feels hard.
 Journal Prompt
“How has grief impacted the way I show up in my relationships?”Optional:
“What do I wish my partner or loved one understood about my grief?”
 
If you’re listening to this alone and wishing your partner understood… you’re not failing.Sometimes understanding comes after the words.And sometimes an episode like this becomes the bridge.
If this resonated, consider sharing it — especially with your partner.You don’t have to explain everything perfectly. Sometimes sending an episode and saying, “This feels like us,” is enough.
Disclaimer
This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health support, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or medical provider.
Reminder
Your grief is not too much.Your pain is not proof your relationship is broken.And even if things feel hard right now — you are not alone.
Until next time…Be gentle with your heart. And with the hearts grieving beside you.

#8 | Why Valentine’s Day Can Hurt After Loss

Does Valentine’s Day make you feel more aware of what — or who — is missing?
Do you scroll past smiling families and wonder, “Why not me?”
Have you ever felt invisible on a day that’s supposed to celebrate love?
 
In this heartfelt episode, we’re talking about a holiday that can quietly wound grieving parents: Valentine’s Day. While the world celebrates romance, crafts, candies, and smiling children in red and pink, many grieving mothers feel something entirely different — emptiness, longing, or a deep ache they can’t quite put into words.
 
Related Episodes:
Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss?
Episode 7: Loving Yourself After Loss: Finding Your Way Back to You
Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. Please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or grief-informed professional if you need additional support.
 
 
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#7 Loving Yourself After Loss: Finding Your Way Back to You

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t recognize myself anymore”?
Do you feel like grief has taken not just your baby, but pieces of who you used to be?
Are you wondering who you are now — and whether that version of you is still deserving of love?
In today’s conversation, we’re exploring one of the most tender truths of grief: how loss changes your identity — and how hard it can feel to love the woman you’re becoming. Grief can make you feel like a stranger to yourself and to people around you.. Your reflection looks different. Your energy shifts. Your purpose feels blurry. And suddenly, the version of you before loss feels more like a memory than a place you can return to.
This episode walks through why self-love feels so far away after loss and why that distance has nothing to do with your worth. You’ll learn gentle ways to begin reconnecting with yourself, nurturing the woman you are now, and offering compassion where blame once lived. Loving yourself again doesn’t mean returning to who you were — it means honoring who you are today, even in the midst of grief.
Related Episodes:
Episode 5: What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like
Episode 6: Am I Still a Mother After Loss?
Disclaimer: This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. Please reach out to a licensed mental health provider or grief-informed professional if you need additional support.
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#6| Am I Still a Mother After Loss?

Have you ever wondered, “Am I still a mother… even though my baby isn’t here?”
Do you feel like your motherhood vanished the moment the world stopped acknowledging your child?
Have you carried the quiet ache of wanting your baby — and your identity — to be seen?
In today’s tender and validating conversation, we’re exploring one of the deepest questions grieving mothers ask: “Am I still a mother after loss?” It’s a question whispered through tears, tucked into late-night messages, and carried silently by women who feel their identity slipping away in the quiet after loss.
I share a story of a mother who, after a late miscarriage, returned to the same doctor’s office that had confirmed her baby’s heartbeat was gone — only to have her motherhood erased by a simple intake question. The pain of that moment wasn’t just about loss… it was about identity, belonging, and the fear that her motherhood no longer “counted.”
We talk about why this question runs so deep. Loss impacts more than emotions — it shakes identity, self-worth, and the story you thought you were stepping into. When the world stops recognizing your motherhood, it can feel like a part of you disappears, too.
This episode gently reminds you that:Motherhood begins with love — not birth. Not visibility. Not validation.Your baby mattered. Your motherhood is real. And nothing about loss can erase that truth.
Loss affects identity, not just emotion.• You are grieving a baby, a future, and a version of yourself.• Your motherhood doesn’t end when a heartbeat does.• Love is what defines motherhood — and love does not disappear.
Gentle Ways to Honor Your Motherhood
Speak your baby’s name — aloud or quietly in your heart.• Create rituals that include them.• Wear something symbolic or meaningful.These acts aren’t small — they are declarations of love.
Weekly Journal Prompt:
“What does motherhood look like for me now — after loss?”
Related Episodes:
Episode 1: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby
Episode 4: Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible
Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you are struggling with your mental well-being, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider, grief counselor, or trusted medical professional.
Let’s stay connected:Email → holdingwomenthroughgrief@gmail.com 
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#5| What Healing After Loss Really Looks Like

Have you ever wondered, “Shouldn’t this be over by now?”
Do you feel confused by the back-and-forth waves of grief — doing “okay” one moment and falling apart the next?
Have you questioned whether you’re healing at all because it doesn’t look the way you thought it would?
In today’s episode, we’re talking about healing after baby loss — without timelines, pressure, or shame. Healing is often described like a destination or a finish line, but real healing looks nothing like that. It’s not quick. It’s not tidy. And it’s certainly not linear.
I share the story of a mother who asked me, “Will I ever truly feel joy again?” followed by the painful whisper, “I shouldn’t still feel like this.” Together, we explore where this idea of an “expiration date” on grief even comes from — and why it’s simply not true.
We talk about the spiraling nature of healing, how you may revisit feelings again and again, and why those moments are not setbacks but part of the sacred unfolding of grief. You’ll hear how your body holds trauma, why brain fog and fatigue show up long after others think you should be okay, and how anniversaries can bring a rush of emotion that isn’t regression but remembrance.
This episode gently reminds you:Healing isn’t forgetting. Healing isn’t moving on. Healing is learning how to carry your grief — and your love — in a new, more compassionate way. You’re not behind. You’re not failing. You’re human. And you’re still healing, even on the days you can’t feel it.
Recap from Today’s Episode
Healing is not linear — it spirals. • Setbacks don’t mean failure. • Grief is emotional and physical. • You don’t have to “move on” to move forward. • You are still healing, even if no one sees it.
Grounding Tools from This Episode
Journal Prompt: “What does healing look like for me — in this season, as I am now?”
 
Related Episodes:
Episode 1: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby
Episode 3: What Grief Looks Like (Even When It’s Not Sadness)
Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need professional mental health care, please reach out to a licensed therapist, grief counselor, or trusted provider.
Let’s stay connected:Email → holdingwomenthroughgrief@gmail.com 
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#4| Why Baby Loss Still Feels So Invisible

Have you ever wondered why the world grew so quiet after your loss?
Do you feel like your grief is invisible — minimized, rushed, or forgotten?
Have you questioned your own feelings simply because no one spoke your baby’s name?
In today’s educational and deeply validating episode, we’re exploring why baby loss — from miscarriage to stillbirth to infant loss — so often becomes invisible. Not because it’s small, but because the world doesn’t know how to hold it.
We talk about the silence after loss: the unanswered texts, the “let me know if you need anything,” the quick shift from support to discomfort. I share the story of a mother whose baby’s name was never spoken after she left the hospital, and how that silence made her question if her grief was even real.
Together, we break down the roots of this invisibility — the fear of saying the wrong thing, the discomfort with death, the desire to rush grief, and the spiritual clichés that try to sweep pain away instead of honoring it. We walk through three myths that contribute to invisible grief and explore gentle, meaningful ways friends and family can truly support a grieving mother.
Most importantly, this episode reminds you:Your loss doesn’t need witnesses to be real. Your grief doesn’t need permission to matter. Your story deserves to be spoken — not silenced.
3 Myths That Make Baby Loss Feel Invisible
Myth 1: “At least it was early.”
Myth 2: “You can try again.”
Myth 3: “If I bring it up, I’ll make it worse.”
Mini Teaching: How to Support a Grieving Mother
Say the baby’s name.
Offer presence, not platitudes.
Keep showing up — even months later.
Weekly Journal Prompt:
“When did I first start to feel invisible in my grief?”
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Related Episodes:
Episode: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby
Episode: What Grief Looks Like (Even When It’s Not Sadness)
Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you need additional mental health support, please seek care from a licensed mental health professional or grief-informed provider.
Let’s stay connected: Email → holdingwomenthroughgrief@gmail.com 
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#3| What Grief Looks Like (Even When It’s Not Sadness)

Does your grief show up in ways that don’t look like “typical” sadness?
Have you ever wondered why you feel numb, irritated, overwhelmed — or completely fine… until you’re not?
Do you catch yourself cleaning, scrolling, or staying busy and wonder, “Is this grief, too?”
In today’s conversation, we’re looking at the many faces grief can take — especially the ones society doesn’t talk about. Grief isn’t always tears and long days in bed. Sometimes it shows up as anger, numbness, irritability, over-functioning, silence, or the endless scrolling we do just to escape our thoughts.
I share stories from the women I’ve sat with — mothers who laughed in the most impossible moments, who scrubbed their homes top to bottom, who felt nothing at all, or who moved through their days as if everything were fine. Every one of them was grieving.
We explore how grief impacts the nervous system, the brain, and the body itself — how fog, exhaustion, and difficulty concentrating aren’t personal failings but physical signs of profound loss. And together, we walk through gentle ways to support yourself when your grief doesn’t look the way you expected. From noticing without judgment, to grounding your nervous system, to offering yourself one honest moment a day… this episode gives you permission to let your grief be exactly what it is.
You are allowed to feel nothing. You are allowed to feel too much. It’s all grief. It’s all valid.
Stay Connected & Supported:
Join my private email community for reflections, grief tools, and behind-the-scenes support
Related Episodes:
Episode: What I Wish I Heard After Losing a Baby
Episode: The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For
Journal Prompt from Today’s Episode: “How does my grief show up when no one is watching?”
Disclaimer:This podcast is for supportive and educational purposes only. I am not a licensed therapist. If you are struggling with your mental health or need professional guidance, please reach out to a licensed mental health provider, grief counselor, or trusted medical professional.
 
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#2|The First Days After Loss — What No One Prepares You For

Have you ever wondered why the first days after loss feel impossible to explain?
Do you question whether you’re “doing grief right” when you feel nothing… or everything at once?
Are you trying to make sense of the shock, the numbness, and the emotional whiplash no one talks about?
In today’s episode, we’re stepping into the tender, sacred space of the very first days after loss — the days no one prepares you for. The world often grows quiet at a time when your body is in shock, your heart is unraveling, and your mind is caught between numbness and overwhelm.
I’m sharing the truth of what these early days can look like: the tunnel of silence, the sudden waves of uncontrollable emotion, the moments of questioning every choice, and the way everyday tasks can feel both impossible and strangely grounding. This isn’t an episode about “fixing” grief — it’s companionship, soft honesty, and a place to breathe without expectations or timelines. Whether you're feeling nothing, feeling everything, or floating somewhere in between, this conversation meets you exactly where you are.
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